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1. TEACH YOUR CHILD ABOUT THE BRAIN AND HOW IT LEARNS

According to Dr. Dan Siegel, M.D. author of The Whole-Brain Child, kids start to develop a growth mindset just from learning about how their brain works and grows.

Once kids understand that the brain actually physically grows connections as they practise and learn new skills and concepts, they get excited about the learning process and feel less worried about making mistakes.

The more you use your brain the more brain you’ll have to use! ~Your Fantastic Elastic Brain

Your Fantastic Elastic Brain: Stretch It, Shape It by JoAnn Deak

Your Fantastic Elastic Brain explains in kid-friendly language what the brain is and how it works. It explains how connections between neurons strengthen the more we practise a skill and it helps kids understand how effort and persistence boost their intelligence! It has fun illustrations and will lead to lots of interesting discussions about growth mindset.

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

A Walk in the Rain with a Brain by Edward M. Hallowell – a kid-friendly tour of how the brain works and grows

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind |

The Whole-Brain Child Workbook: Practical Exercises, Worksheets and Activities to Nurture Developing Minds by Dan Siegel

2. TEACH YOUR CHILD ABOUT THE DIFFERENT MINDSETS 

If you want your kids to develop a growth mindset, self-awareness is a great place to start.

You can start by teaching them to recognize the two different mindsets by reading them books or by watching a video.

After a few lessons at school about the basic differences between the two mindsets, most of the Maria Regina students could differentiate between examples of the two mindsets when discussing story characters.

Making A Splash – Growth Mindset for Kids by Carol E. Reiley

Making a Splash is a fun book that shows the differences in mindsets between two siblings learning to swim. This book has everything you need to explain growth mindset to your child.

It emphasizes effort and persistence in achieving success, and explains why some people have to work harder than others at certain skills. It even has a detailed section for parents that explains growth mindset and gives all kinds of suggestions for discussion with your child.

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck – Learn all about the two mindsets and how they impact the way we approach relationships, work and life!

3. MODEL GROWTH MINDSET THINKING 

One of the best ways we can encourage our children to have a growth mindset is to work on developing one ourselves. After all, as developmental psychologists have known for a long time, kids learn much of their behavior and attitudes from watching how we react to our challenges.

The easiest way to do this is to let your kids overhear you thinking aloud positive phrases when you make mistakes or find something difficult

Instead of… “I’m not very good at this.” or “This is too hard.”

Say… “This is really hard for me. I guess I better keep practicing.”

Although it may feel a little awkward at first, the more you do it, the more natural it becomes and sounds.

This thinking aloud strategy is commonly used by teachers when modelling how to think while reading and you should notice eventually that your children will start to use these phrases themselves.

I Knew You Could: A Book for All the Stops in Your Life by Craig Dorfman

This modern day sequel to The Little Engine That Could is fantastic.It documents the little engine’s travels through the difficult and challenging journey of life. He meets obstacles with a positive attitude and learns that his attitude often determines how things turn out.

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

Thanks for the Feedback, I Think  by Julia Cook – Help your kids understand that constructive feedback after mistakes or failures can help them improve and get smarter!

Everyone Can Learn to Ride a Bicycle by Chris Raschka – This is such an encouraging book for any child struggling with learning to ride a bicycle, or any other skill.

4. DISCUSS NEGATIVE AND POSITIVE SELF-TALK

Talk to your kids about their “inner voice” and how it sometimes tells them things that aren’t always helpful. Teach them to challenge those negative inner statements with more positive alternatives.

Sylvia Duckworth and a fellow Canadian, created this fantastic sketch-note which should give you some ideas of where to start.

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Bubble Gum Brain by Julia Cook

This hilarious book likens having a growth mindset to having a brain made of bubble gum that grows and constantly learns and stretches. It tells the funny story of two boys trying to learn how to ride a unicycle. The one boy has bubble gum brain and the other has “brick brain” – or a fixed mindset.

The book shows the different kinds of self-talk that kids with both mindsets tend to have and it teaches how having a growth mindset encourages perseverance and success.

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

The Little Engine That Could by Watty Piper


This classic story has been around for generations because of its timeless message that a positive attitude and effort is more important to your success than your talents.

You’ll be joining your child chanting “I think I can, I think I can!” by the end of this one.

My Day Is Ruined!: A Story Teaching Flexible Thinking  by Bryan Smith

The Dot by Peter H. Reynolds

Ish by Peter H. Reynolds

Good News, Bad News by Jeff Mack

5. RECOGNIZE EFFORT OVER SUCCESS

Instead of focusing your attention on the times when your child is successful, recognize the times when they are putting effort into what they are doing.

After all, no one can control whether they are successful or not. All they can do is try.

So if you recognize your child’s efforts, win or lose, they will come to understand that what is important is their effort.

This kind of recognition promotes an internal sense of self-efficacy.

In other words, your child will come to believe that her successes are due to her level of effort (which he/she can control), rather than an innate level of talent or skill (that he/she can’t control).

Additionally, recognizing effort is not just helpful for kids who struggle. It is also helpful for kids who achieve success easily because it pushes them to continue challenging themselves.

Sometimes You Win–Sometimes You Learn for Kids by John C. Maxwell

When Wendy and Wade lose their Woggleball game, their grandfather helps them realize that important lessons are learned from losses. The kids learn about setting goals for improvement, and the importance of persistence and effort in success.

A great book to start conversations about the importance of failures.

Winning takes effort, this much you will see.
What you learn from your loss can bring victory!

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6. TEACH THEM THE POWER OF “YET”

I can’t tie my shoes.

I can’t ride a bike.

I can’t read.

Have you heard these words, or something similar?

It can be heartbreaking to hear your child say these things. And it’s almost guaranteed that they are feeling frustrated, sad and hopeless when they say them.

Why not next time you hear such a phrase, add on the word “YET” to the end of their sentence. And point it out to the child.

Just feel the difference…

I can’t tie my shoes YET.

I can’t ride a bike YET.

I can’t read YET.

It’s more hopeful, more optimistic, and so much more encouraging.

Teach your child to add the magical power of YET to their thoughts and words! 

When Pigs Fly by Valerie Coulman

An adorable story about a cow named Ralph who wants his Dad to buy him a bicycle. The father cow tells him that he’ll buy Ralph a bicycle when pigs fly. From there on, Ralph endeavors to find a way to help pigs fly.

Along the way, he models the power of YET and shows that with a little creative thinking, and a lot of persistence, any obstacle can be overcome!

7. HELP THEM SET GOALS 

Helping your child set goals for himself, and then guiding him through the process of achieving those goals, helps boost his ability to see himself as capable of continual improvement and learning.

According to Carol Dweck, it’s important that when we set goals we come up with a specific plan to improve.

Have you heard of a S.M.A.R.T. goal? Basically, this is an acronym for helping to set meaningful goals. All goals should have all of the following components.

  • S = Specific – Who? What? Where? When will I work on this?
  • M= Measurable – How will we know if we succeed?
  • A = Achievable – Is this realistic? Can this be done? Do I have only 1 or 2 goals to focus on?
  • R = Relevant – How will this help me? Can I see the benefits of achieving this goal?
  • T = Timely – When do I want to be able to do this by?

To do some goal-setting with your child, start by having your child brainstorm and record all the things they do well, and then brainstorm things they want to get better at.

You can then help your child come up with a plan for achieving their goals, ensuring that it is achievable by breaking it down into manageable steps.

Someday by Eileen Spinelli

A beautiful book about a young girl and her dreams for the future. From discovering dinosaur bones to travelling the world to competing in the Olympics, this book will inspire kids to think big and to imagine endless possibilities for themselves.

Someday provides a great place to start talking with your child about his or her dreams and what they can start doing now to move towards those goals!

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

Today I Will: A Year of Quotes, Notes, and Promises to Myself by Eileen and Jerry Spinelli

How to Teach Kids Perseverance and Goal-Setting – fantastic article at Parents.com

8. CELEBRATE MISTAKES AND STRUGGLES

Allow your kids to fail and make mistakes.

But, isn’t that hard to do? And why would you want to do that if you can help them succeed?

Because making mistakes is how we learn!

Instead of teaching our kids to fear mistakes, why not teach them to celebrate mistakes?

  • At the end of the school day, ask about what was difficult today, or what they worked hard on.
  • At dinnertime, ask each person at the table to share a mistake they made today and what they learned from it.
  • After a failure, talk about what they would do differently next time to improve.

Rosie Revere, Engineer by Andrea Beaty

Rosie wants to be an engineer. She loves designing and building new inventions, but becomes scared of making mistakes when one of her inventions is made fun of. When supportive Great Aunt Rose visits, Rosie learns that mistakes are a part of learning and should be celebrated for what they teach!

I love how Great Aunt Rose cheers Rosie on by saying, “Your brilliant first flop was a raging success. C’mon let’s get busy and on to the next.”

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

Mistakes That Worked: 40 Familiar Inventions & How They Came to Be by Charlotte Foltz Jones

Beautiful Oops! by Barney Saltzberg

It’s Okay to Make Mistakes by Todd Parr

9. AVOID LABELING YOUR CHILD AND OTHERS

Whether it’s a good label (You are so smart!) or a negative one (Don’t be such a lazy bones!), when we label our kids, we are placing them in a figurative box that outlines how they are supposed to be.

Instead of motivating kids, both positive and negative labels communicate a fixed mindset.

If we want our kids to understand that they can continually grow, change and improve, we want them to believe that regardless of their innate talents, their success depends on the amount of effort and time they put in.

The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes by Mark Pett and Gary Rubinstein

Beatrice is an amazing kid. Every year she wins the local talent show and she always manages to do everything right. Everyone in town calls her “The Girl Who Never Makes Mistakes.” Until one day she does, and Beatrice learns that it’s much more fun to live a life full of imperfection.

This story teaches the reader that it’s okay to make mistakes, and the importance of not taking yourself too seriously.

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-out, spanking, punishment or bribery by Judy Arnall

10. MODEL GROWTH MINDSET BEHAVIOUR

Let your kids see you…

Persisting with difficult tasks

Trying to learn something new

Taking on challenges with enthusiasm

Making mistakes and persisting

Meeting failures with renewed effort to succeed

Sky Pig by Jan. L. Coates

In this adorable story, a pig who really wants to fly tries making all kinds of inventions to get him into the sky. One after one, his inventions fail but he never gives up and in the end, his persistence pays off.

It’s perfect for talking about persistence, and the importance of having a positive attitude towards failure. I also love the gorgeous illustrations which are a mix of plasticine and paper collage elements!

Other Helpful Books and Resources:

What Do You Do With a Problem? by Kobi Yamada

The Most Magnificent Thing by Ashley Spires

Sam and Dave Dig a Hole by Mac Barnett

Going Places by Peter and Paul Reynolds

Ryan The Spy and: The Inventor’s Secret: A Growth Mindset Series by Jason Rago